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What if he keeps mentioning his ex even after you said it bothers you?

Great question! I am repeating your question on purpose—what is the reason he keeps bringing up his ex EVEN AFTER you said it bothered you? Let’s break this down.

You mentioned “even after” which basically means you are setting a boundary, which is a guideline you put in place to protect yourself. When a boundary is set, people always have two choices: they can either respect it or disregard it. But here’s the key—boundaries are your responsibility.

For example, if you say, “Hey, I really don’t feel comfortable when you keep mentioning your ex. If this continues, we need to start discussing ways to…”—the “IF” is the most important part. If your boundary is continuously ignored, then you have two choices: you can either follow through with what your “IF” statement outlined, or you can continue allowing your boundary to go unheard.

So, my question back to you—what do you want to do about the boundary you’ve set?

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Do I constantly have to be with her?

Good question! One that I think a lot of us have when it comes to spending time with our loved ones. First off, you do not HAVE to do anything you don’t want to do. Glad we got that out of the way, onto the answer..

It sounds like a conversation is needed between you and her about boundaries around personal space. For example, if you enjoy your alone time (I do toooo), a boundary in a relationship regarding alone time could be: “I enjoy spending time with you, but sometimes I’d also like some time to myself. Can we talk about ways to make that happen?” Of course, you can phrase it in whatever way feels natural to you.

In a healthy relationship, autonomy is a key element. Big word but it simply means independence and the ability to make choices for yourself. In a healthy relationship, you have the autonomy to have your own friends, your own hobbies, and get this, even your own time alone! But since relationships are partnerships, having a conversation about it is important.

- Ms. G

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How do I improve the relationship with my mom?

That’s a really important question and I can tell it’s coming from a tender place. First off, improving your relationship with your mom doesn’t mean you have to carry all the weight. What it can mean is starting with curiosity and small, honest conversations.

For example, saying something like, “I want us to be closer, but sometimes I feel hurt or misunderstood—can we talk about that?” opens the door. It’s okay if it feels awkward or even scary; vulnerable conversations often do. And remember, improvement doesn’t always look like a perfect bond, it might be about understanding each other better, even if you don’t always agree. Healing with a parent is a process, not a quick fix, and you’re allowed to move at your own pace.

- Ms. G

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What if he keeps mentioning his ex even after you said it bothers you?

What if he keeps mentioning his ex even after you said it bothers you?

Do I constantly have to be with her?

Do I constantly have to be with her?

How do I improve the relationship with my mom?

How do I improve the relationship with my mom?

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